The first step in the process of self-reflection is acceptance of the addict’s past behaviors. An addict must realize that their past behaviors were a direct result of their drug addiction or alcoholism. The alcoholic or drug addict must acknowledge that they are unable to control their behavior when using drugs or alcohol. Only then can the addict move forward in changing their behaviors.
A client must be thoroughly unsatisfied with their old behaviors to succeed in recovery. He must realize that these behaviors need to be changed in the future.
Reflecting on past behaviors and mistakes helps addicts carefully and honestly examine what they have done while using drugs or alcohol. Mistakes have to acknowledged, accepted and then mended.
In most cases an addict’s relationships are limited to people with the same addictions. It could be friends, family or partner. Reflecting on past relationships means acknowledging this pattern. It also means evaluating these old relationships, and ending unhealthy relationships. It can also mean changing the client’s activities and interests to avoid drug- and alcohol-related activities.
Once an addict has been in recovery, he will have to form new, healthy relationships. Healthy relationships are ones that do not revolve around drinking alcohol or doing drugs. The alcoholic or drug addict should form new friendships with people who do not drink or do drugs. This will help avoid the addict in recovery from falling back into addiction.
An addict must accept the fact that a better life awaits him when he is clean. His healthy relationships are bound to grow healthier with time.